12 Effective & Practical Steps To Find Your Soulmate
You will find your soulmate when you have a clear and positive outlook on love and life.
Specialty: Mental Health Counseling, Mental Health Promotion, and MindfulnessExperience: 15 yearsAshley Cairns is the CEO of A Change for Better (ACFB) and a mental health counsellor working in New Zealand. Originally from New York, Ashley has worked professionally in the US, Canada, and New Zealand, helping those suffering from anxiety, depression, and other mental health issues.
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How to find your soulmate is a question for most of us. Well, finding your soulmate can be a long, tiring, and winding path with several obstacles along the way. We all have heard that a soulmate is waiting for you somewhere, but how do you find that special one with whom you can share your love and life and have an intimate relationship. In such cases, improving your outlook towards life and changing your attitude about love and life can help you increase your chances. So, read on to find out some easy steps to help you find your soulmate.
How To Find Your Soulmate: 12 Easy Steps
1. Know yourself
Finding a soulmate is like having a security blanket wrapped around you. No matter what happens, they will listen to you and care for your feelings. The first step on your wonderful journey to find your soulmate is to take a detour to know yourself and what you want. The more you know about yourself, the clearer your inner council will be. Be truthful and avoid pretending to be someone you are not. Your dignity and self-esteem are essential.
As with any relationship, it is essential that you know, understand, and love yourself. If you’re looking for someone to complete you rather than compliment you, you’ll find failure over and over. Find the courage to look inward before looking outward for love.
2. Know your soulmate
Have a clear picture of the person you’re seeking in life. Be clear about the type—whether the individual should be ambitious, adventurous, humorous, caring, sincere, or sensitive. Also, figure out what you are looking for in a relationship—security, nurturing, excitement, caring, unconditional love, stability, respect, or all of these. These factors will determine whether or not you will achieve a long-lasting relationship with your soulmate.
3. Inculcate similar qualities
Once you have figured out the attributes of your soulmate, inculcate those in yourself and share a similar vision. Perhaps you are drawn to someone who loves outdoor adventures or someone who enjoys reading books. If you work on yourself in the same direction, you might meet someone who shares your interests and aspirations.
4. Take your time
A relationship’s stability is built on the strong foundation of friendship. So, begin with a friendship, and love will find its way to you if you allow enough time and space. Eventually, you may find your soulmate who completes you and with whom you can enjoy a profound connection. Don’t rush things, take your time to establish the foundation of a relationship if you want it to be straightforward, free of drama, and pleasurable.
5. Be happy and healthy
Happiness should first and foremost originate from within you. Happy people would want to be around people like themselves. When you are happy and your life is going well, you attract happy companions. For instance, go to a gym, put your health first, eat the right food to keep yourself healthy, and then your soulmate and you can have a healthy relationship.
6. Show your fun side
If you want to persuade someone to open up, keep your body language welcoming. Focus on having fun because that will make you appealing. Also, be aware of your weaknesses. Understanding and embracing imperfections is essential when you meet new people. To be a fun person, make others feel comfortable in your presence.
7. Look around
You can bump into your soulmate when you accidently crash your trolley or at a bookshop when looking for your favorite books. Also, you can find a potential soulmate in public transport, at sporting venues, or at concerts. So, look around and you never know where you might exchange paths with that special person.
8. Meet people with similar values
Hang around with people who share similar values, someone who honors and accepts you as you are, strives to understand your perspective and feelings, and is willing to work through your differences with respect and compromise. Once you click with that person, your heart will know they are your soulmate.
9. Have open communication
Discovering soulmates necessitates constant open communication. Communication begins with attempting to be understood. Fear, insecurities, and preconceived notions can often get in the way of genuine conversation. It’s about what you do, how you do it, how you react, and the positive energy you exude. At times, you don’t have to share common interests and values with your soulmate, but if you’re both ready to put in some effort, the process of finding a soulmate may be a little easier.
10. Widen your social network
Spend time with your buddies to explore new places and do new things. For example, take a guided sightseeing tour to learn about a new city or cuisine. During your journey, you may encounter interesting people. Also, broaden your social network to widen your dating pool. To meet like-minded individuals, pursue a hobby, throw a few house parties, or volunteer for a cause close to your heart.
11. Go on a blind date
The most important thing about blind dates is that they drive you out of your comfort zone. Friends are an excellent place where you can look for your soulmate because they know who you are and what kind of a partner you need. Allow their intuition to guide you and arrange dates for you. You’ll have a great time even if the person you go on a blind date isn’t going to be your soul mate.
12. Trust your guts
Sometimes when you meet someone for the first time, you’ll have the feeling as if you have known them for ages. Your intuition will tell you that they are the one. Keep your eyes and mind open to a million possibilities. Next time you encounter someone who grabs your gaze and makes your pupils dilate with enthusiasm, consider them. If they can share your joy and accept you for who you are today rather than who you can be tomorrow, you might have found your soulmate.
Frequently Asked Questions
1. How do I know who my soulmate is?
A soulmate is someone around who you feel easy and comfortable. Their lifestyle and personalities seem to be highly compatible with yours and you both may share the same values and ideas. You feel extreme empathy as well as respect for each other, share the same goals in life and seem to agree when making important decisions.
2. How many soulmates can I have?
You may have more than one soulmate and it is not necessary to be involved in a romantic relationship with them. They may be friends, family members or other people with who you share a strong connection and who help you grow, evolve and be the best version of yourself.
3. What are soulmate marks?
Soulmate Marks or Soulmarks was developed as a subtrope of Soulmates (Soulmates AU). It is based on popular works of fiction for shows on TV or other media platforms. It involves the idea that people who are fated to be together have physical proof to identify this connection. Similar marks are present on soulmates.
It takes a lot of effort and self-reflection to find your soulmate. You can find them if you are willing to put in the time, effort, and create healthy relationship habits. However, don’t put off living your best life until you meet your soulmate, enjoy every minute of your existence.
Key Pointers
- To find your soulmate, you should be clear about what you are looking for in this person.
- Before making a decision, invest time and effort into getting to know them.
- If you feel comfortable with them, trust your guts and move ahead on a positive note.
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