How To Get Your Crush To Like You? 21 Ways To Try

These tricks to impress your crush will surely show you a way to their heart.

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We all had a crush at some point in our lives. You feel the pounding of your heart each time you see them and feel nervous and excited in their presence. If you are wondering how to get your crush to like you, we have got you covered. Winning over your crush can seem like a herculean task, as confessing your feelings to your crush is never easy. Your mind can be clouded with self-doubt, and you often ask yourself whether you are good enough for them. However, there are certain ways and tricks you can master to get any woman to like you. In this post, we have come up with some cool and simple ways to express yourself and project your best qualities to get your crush to like you.

How to Get Your Crush To Like You: 21 Ways

You don’t have to think too hard to get your crush’s attention. Here are a few magic formulas to make them fall in love with you right away.

1. Be patient: The most important thing you do to get their attention is to be patient. Take a step back and slow down. Be consistent and resist the urge to express your emotions. Love does not happen overnight, even in the best of circumstances. Allow your special someone to think about you and allow the feelings to develop naturally rather than being forced. Try to communicate, demonstrate your intelligence, and we are sure your future partner will notice you and your patience. Let the person know that you are worth the wait, and you’ve already won half the battle.

2. Be Yourself: You mustn’t begin acting in a completely different manner. Be yourself, be relaxed, calm, and avoid becoming what your crush desires you to be. Don’t pretend to be someone you’re not in real life. There is no need to change your personality. Believe in yourself for your crush to fall in love with you. Remember, you are one of a kind.

3. Initiate a conversation: It is natural to be nervous around someone unfamiliar or new in the relationship. Relax and initiate a conversation, and you will be appreciated for it. Talking is essential to make it appear straightforward. Initiate the conversation with the intent to listen to them. When people feel understood, they open up and will have more trust in you. People generally love talking about their family, friends, school, and college. Later, you can express your thoughts and feelings on these.

4. Dress to impress: People who are well-dressed and well-groomed stand out in the crowd. So, try to look attractive and wear clothes that you can easily pull off. Also, if you appear fit and presentable, your crush will start noticing you. So, the next time you run into your crush, make sure you have a smile and an upbeat attitude, as well as impeccable fashion sense. Style your hair and accessorize well to catch your crush’s attention.

5. Drop some hints: Drop a few hints to convey you are interested. However, do not overdo it when it comes to expressing yourself. Perhaps you can strike a general or witty conversation to share some information about yourself. You can give feelers to a common friend about your liking to let the cat out of the bag. This part can play a significant role in revealing the secret and letting the person know about your feelings. Once you’ve conveyed the message, perhaps something will bloom on the opposite side as well.

6. Keep in touch through social media or texts: Spending time on social media and responding to their texts and posts is the best way to let them know you’re interested. Try to find out your crush’s phone number, email address, or send a friend request on Twitter, Instagram, or Facebook, and introduce yourself. Don’t forget to update and fix your profile before you both follow each other on social media. A good profile picture can pique people’s interests and make an excellent first impression. Maintain an open line of communication.

7. Don’t mention your old crushes: If you have a crush on your office colleague or a college friend and want a positive reaction, never bring up your ex or break-ups in your conversation. It’s time to think about your new love interest and avoid thinking about your previous relationships. Mentioning your old crush will make you appear insecure and send a clear signal that you are still in love with your former lover. So, do not discourage your crush from pursuing or following you by mentioning exes.

8. Compliment your crush: There are things to say to the person you like, and complimenting them well is a great way to get and keep their attention. That special someone you have your eye on will appreciate and enjoy hearing your compliments. So, get those perfect lines to describe those beautiful eyes, outfit, style, and smile. You can also express your admiration for your beau-to-be on social media. Use pick-lines that are genuine and not cheesy or overused.

9. Value yourself: If you want to have a successful and happy relationship with your crush in the future, never disrespect or undervalue yourself. Second, if you need to hear those three magical words, you need to love yourself first and know what you want. You want the person in your life to be your partner, not your ruler. Loving and knowing yourself helps you be emotionally strong and does not allow the person to take advantage of you.

10. Respect the boundaries: Don’t exert pressure on the person you love because respecting the boundaries of the person you love is critical. For example, if you’re asking someone out or want to talk to him on the phone, consider how the person feels about it and whether it’s in their best interests. Your crush will like you if you let the relationship develop naturally. If you have a crush on a guy, don’t pressure him to go out on a date. It is critical to recognize that what is acceptable to you may not be acceptable to your partner.

11. Spend time together: Spending quality time with your new love is the best way to ensure your relationship remains healthy. So, it’s time to be a part of every plan so that your partner grows fond of you. Watch Netflix together, go on occasional dinners, and do activities that involve both of you, and you will soon read the signals. Quality time is everything, and being around someone frequently will undoubtedly increase their liking for you.

12. Discover shared interests and hobbies: “You too?” When you hear this from your crush, it means you have similar likes and dislikes. Shared interests and hobbies can foster a sense of curiosity, connection, and intimacy in the person you’re hooked on. So, do some homework and learn about their interests, passions, and hobbies, as these can be important factors in taking your relationship to the next level.

13. Flaunt your qualities: Instead of bragging about yourself, show off what you’re genuinely good at. Your love interest must look for the right qualities in you. For example, you can demonstrate your dependability, reveal your sense of humor, show your fun side, or share your values and personality traits to come across as a genuine person. Signs that you are not pretending and being honest will make your crush fall in love with you.

14. Don’t stalk: It’s understandable to want to walk behind your crush or feel butterflies in your stomach, but don’t let your racing heart lead you astray. Checking their status updates, following them on social media, making frequent phone calls, or texting may appear to be a teen drama. There are some girls and boys who despise people who stalk them. So, be cautious; otherwise, it may be toxic to some extent. Remember, you will be OK if your crush does not have the same feelings for you.

15. Tease your crush: Allow the emojis to do the talking, say something simple, give them a genuine compliment, and the rest will fall into place. Make them discover the true intention behind your offerings. Play it off casually and avoid any super bold moves to ensure that it is not too obvious. Instead of being easily accessible all the time, try some mysterious ideas to draw attention. Remember to keep it lighthearted and not hurtful to the person you have a crush on.

16. Smell wonderful: A wonderful fragrance can always attract romance and is an excellent mood-setter. Every time you walk past them, you should leave a wild, romantic, and refreshing scent in the air. A variety of appealing aromas plays an essential role in subtly attracting your crush. It’s time to reflect on your beauty, spirit, and vitality with some exotic fragrances because you never know when you’ll run into your crush again.

17. Flirt mode on: Some nonverbal signals of attraction are required if you want your crush to like you back. If you’ve already reached a point of comfort in your relationship, this is a great idea. Make them feel interested in you by using your smile or a barely-there touch that only two of you can notice. Make sure you signal all this while remaining within the safe boundaries. You’ll get a sense of their emotions very soon. A fun and romantic side can always get the chemistry flowing between the couples.

18. Make them jealous: One of the most ingenious ways to improve your relationship status is to make your crush jealous. You can easily bring out hidden feelings by going out with your gang or flirting with someone else. However, make sure your partner is paying attention and don’t go overboard, or it may backfire. They will realize how special you are once they become jealous.

19. Maintain the mystery: A healthy dose of mystery in a relationship or one about to happen is not a bad idea. You’ve met someone new, and you should be filled with excitement, desire, and intrigue. However, we suggest taking it slow and do not disclose everything about you all at once. Nevertheless, keeping some details will keep that spark alive. An element of mystery can draw the person’s attention and make them want to learn more about you. Allow your crush to observe you, follow you, and develop an innate liking for you. Remember, there is no excitement if there is no mystery.

20. Portray your best self: The secret to success in cases of love is to present your best version to your new love. So, if you want to make your dreams a reality, all you need to do is be your best self. Take it as a journey of self-discovery, and you can brighten your crush’s day by displaying your best qualities. Whether it’s your appearance, new skills, craft, or even your health or hygiene, paying attention to minor details can draw your crush’s attention. In addition, you can maintain your best self by developing good habits, focusing on self-care and loving yourself.

21. Listen and respond: In any relationship, you must be a good listener. You can build respect, romance, and intimacy by listening and responding well. It is important to feel seen and understood in any relationship. It can be as simple as making eye contact, expressing your appreciation and conveying that you hear them. If it’s over text or social media, just put everything down and try to respond to their messages promptly.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. How can I attract my crush without talking?

Try the following tips to attract your crush without talking to them:

  • Dress up to catch their attention.
  • Use body language to show your interest.
  • Do not go too heavy on the makeup. Opt for a natural look instead
  • Make short eye contact.
  • Be confident and happy around them.

2. How long is a crush supposed to last?

There is not a set timeframe for how long a crush can last. It can last for days, weeks, months, or even years.

3. How do I know if my crush likes me?

Here are a few signs that indicate that your crush likes you back:

  • They get nervous around you.
  • They look for ways to talk to you or spend time with you.
  • They try to steal looks with you often.
  • They try to know more about you.
  • They make extra efforts to be with you.

How to get your crush to like you? There is no simple answer to this question, but it’s no rocket science. Focus on displaying your best side and avoid faking a personality. Shower your crush with honest compliments but do not be too predictable. Be a good listener and discover common interests that will help you communicate better with your love interest. Wear your smile while you spend time together, and patiently wait for your crush to pick up the subtle hints left by you.

Key Pointers

  • Patience is the key while waiting for someone’s attention.
  • Well-dressed people garner everybody’s attention, so you can dress to impress.
  • Self-love and valuing oneself can make the other person notice you.
  • Drop some hints for the other to pick and respond.

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Jason Polk
Jason PolkLCSW, LAC
Jason Polk is a licensed couple’s therapist. He’s a Level II PACT (Psychological Approach to Couples Therapy) therapist and has been trained in the RLT (Relational Life Therapy) model. He’s a certified HOCII (Healing Our Core Issues Institute) therapist.

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