How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup: 10 Simple Ways To Try

Not all relationships stand the test of time. A breakup becomes necessary when you can’t work out a fruitful alliance with your partner. If you feel you were treated badly in a relationship and were taken for granted by your boyfriend, you might want to know how to make him miss you after the breakup.

You would also want your ex to realize he made a mistake and make him regret breaking up with you. But how do you go about it? Read this post as we tell you a few subtle ways to make him remorseful and pine for you.

How Long Does It Take For A Guy To Miss You After A Breakup?

There is an easy answer to the question, and it is exactly when you stop missing him. The key to this mind game lies in reverse psychology. It’s human nature to want things one cannot have. It might have been weeks since you last had any contact with each other after your breakup, or you might not have even had any contact, but as soon as he senses you are over him, he will start to miss you.

You might act nonchalantly and profess that you are over him, but if you still miss him and think about him, he will understand it no matter how uncanny it might sound. Guys tend to feel and act differently after a breakup than girls, not because they are “players” or “heart-breakers” but because they comprehend these things differently.

How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup: 10 Best Ways

Give them a couple of months, and after all that partying and drinking along with the “trying to get over an ex” phase is over, the feeling of sadness will open the flood gates, and they will start to miss you. Separation anxiety and feelings of withdrawal will make them long for your presence. Here are some ways that could help you further ensure you always stay in their head.

1. Apologize

If you were the one who initiated the breakup, then apologize for it. If you own up to your mistakes, then you won’t belittle yourself. Wish them good luck for their future ahead. It will make your ex-boyfriend respect you even more. Even after parting ways, he will still yearn for every little thing about you that he loves.

Do remember

Ensure that your apology is heartfelt. Do not apologize for something you didn’t do. Apologize for what you regret and leave it at that. Don’t delve any deeper and dig out old forgotten mistakes.

2. Avoid being friends

Even after the breakup, if he asks you to be friends with him, he wants you to be a part of his life. While it might be tempting to have them in your life in a platonic way, it won’t do you any good. Not only will it make you feel guilty, but things can get even more complicated. So it’s better to just avoid being friends with your ex until you have your thoughts sorted out and the ache of the breakup has subsided.

Mattias Alegro Marasigan writes a rather lengthy blog on Medium on the topic. He says, “The reason I’m not friends with any of my exes is NOT because of some romanticized notion that we might get back together one day. That would be stupid. Unhealthy. The reason I’m not friends with my exes is because they will always hold that portion of my heart. I chose them for a reason and that reason simply doesn’t go away because things didn’t work out. Because I put SO MUCH into my relationships, my mind simply doesn’t want to erase the significance those people have had on my life. But apparently, once a person holds a particular space in the image of my mind, it doesn’t like to remove them from said space. The synapses in my brain still light up the same as the day we first met, and separating that image doesn’t seem to be an option for me. Friendship is still possible, albeit after a long time apart, but I’ve often found that any ongoing connection isn’t realistic in my own life. If the relationship meant anything, in my way of thinking, then it would be disingenuous to try and be anything else (i).”

3. Apply the no-contact rule

If you are still in touch with your ex and have a strong desire to get back together, it is high time you get a grip on yourself. Start with the no-contact rule, which means that you cut off all means of communication from every social media platform. Don’t confuse it with blocking him. Aim to be elusive instead of being “too available.” When he sees that you have stopped communicating with him, the curious cat in him will surely want to know what is going on. Remember, it’s all about reverse psychology. Let him realize how empty his life is without you.

4. Cherish the nostalgia

After some time has passed, it is natural for your ex to lament and reminisce about those happy times when he was in a relationship with you. Instead of focusing on the arguments and fights you both might have had, he will think about the happy times. It’s true that human beings are egoistic creatures, but when in love, they will forget all about that and look back on the happier memories that sparked joy.

5. Be confident

Start anew, whether it’s traveling, giving yourself a new haircut, changing your hair color, or treating yourself to a new wardrobe; taking care of yourself will make you feel like a brand new person and help alleviate some of the sorrow you might feel after the breakup. It will add a fresh new motivation factor to your life. You could even start working out if you did not already. The goal is to look and feel confident, and when your ex sees that, he is sure to miss you.

6. Make him realize

The “single” guy jokes are all over the internet. It’s true when a guy is not bound by any relationship, there are no restrictions. However, it is also incredibly lonely to be single, and it’s common for men to grieve the loss of their significant other. For a guy, their significant other is always there for them to support them and care for them. When they realize how precious you were, they will miss you, and it will just take a few weeks before you hear from them.

7. Focus on yourself

After an especially messy breakup, it is important to take your mind off your ex and focus on yourself. Do all the things you loved doing when you were single and try out activities you have never done before. But sometimes, it is important to mourn and take help from your friends; after all, they are the ones who love you and are there for you no matter what. It could be anything, from going on a trek or learning a new musical instrument. Take your friends and try out something new to focus on yourself. When your ex notices you pampering yourself, it will surely make them miss you more.

8. Make him jealous

Jealousy might be a sin, but not when you are trying to make your ex hanker for you. Going back into the dating scenario is important. This may not only sow the seeds of a new love for you but also make you realize that you are not as desperate for your ex as you thought. Meeting someone new and posting a couple of pictures with them on social media will surely make your ex wonder about the new man in your life. The key is to be subtle and not overflow your social media account with pictures of your new love interest.

Do remember

Don’t post happy pictures with someone new immediately after your break-up. Instead of feeling jealous, your ex might feel teased and annoyed. Instead, post pictures of yourself that may intrigue him.

9. Use social media

Millennials and Gen Z are always updating their social media with everything that is happening in their lives. The internet is a way of life these days. If your ex is constantly looking forward to your updates, then he will definitely keep an eye out for everything you post. You have to make sure to use social media strategically, whether it’s going out for a drink or two with your friends, making new friends, or having a glow-up in general. Whatever you do, don’t cyber-stalk him. It is a definite way of putting him off you for good, and it might even make him sigh in disappointment.

10. Dress to impress

If you both belong to the same friend circle and have the opportunity to meet, try to impress him by dressing up. Wear clothing your ex admires, such as a favorite top or pair of trousers he once liked. Seeing you in these outfits may remind him of the sweet memories of your relationship. Moreover, working on your fitness and changing your appearance can boost your confidence during a tough time. So hit the gym, try new makeup, a different hair color or cut, or update your wardrobe. It doesn’t have to be a drastic transformation, just something that gives you joy and makes you feel good. The inner confidence will radiate and make you more attractive in your ex’s eyes.

Infographic: Focusing On Yourself After A Breakup

Although easier said than done, you must focus on yourself and your well-being after you have gone through a breakup. Give this infographic a read to learn about ideas you can indulge in and with the help of which you can keep yourself occupied. Eventually, don’t forget to save it and share it with a friend in need.

Illustration: The Bridal Box Design Team

Illustration: How To Make Him Miss You After A Breakup: 9 Simple Ways To Try

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Making your man miss you after a breakup does not mean thinking about him endlessly. Watch this video and uncover more secrets to make him come closer.

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