The Virgin’s Guide: 8 Points To Nail Wedding Night Sex
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The first time of doing anything you like is kind of a big deal, and safe to say, most people (even if they vehemently deny it) enjoy sex a lot. So, it’s months on end of waiting and wondering what your first time with your partner is going to be like, and that can build up just a teensy bit of pressure. Add in the fact that you’re most likely with someone who is essentially a stranger, and things can get distressing.
It always helps to have read up a few tips and rules when it’s your first time, and sex is no different. Luckily for you, help is at hand. Here are the top tips you need for having incredible wedding night sex.
1. Set The Mood
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Right, so the wedding is over, the guests have gone home and the two of you are en route to the swankiest hotel in town. The thing is, you don’t have to rip each others clothes off as soon as you enter your suite. Set the mood for the rest of the evening, no candle purchases and rose petals needed – the room will be well done up given it’s your first night together as a couple. Helping each other get out of sweaty wedding clothes is a good start, and pouring yourselves a toast or drawing a hot bath can be the right next step.
2. Take Time To Explore
3. Foreplay Is Everything
Now that you’ve gotten rid of the unnecessary, pesky clothing, you can begin by engaging in some post wedding hanky panky. Touches, kisses, caresses, various warm and moist organs (mouths, people. Focus.) all can be involved in your precursor to lovemaking. Don’t stress it, and go with what you both enjoy.
4. Guide Your Partner
You’re both very new to this and to each other’s bodies (if not your own ones). There are very few explicit right or wrong answers, and none of them should confront you on your first night together. What we’re saying is, enjoy your time together, it is not a test. It is the eager consummation following the ultimate act of commitment – marriage. So, if you like the way your partner kisses your neck, or anything else – let them know, you married them after all. But seriously, letting each other know what you like, what you don’t like and what you’re willing to try makes things much less complicated and much more fun.
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5. Lubrication, Lubrication, Lubrication (And Take It Slow)
Centuries ago, wedding night sex was to be consummated by men of the clergy. Thankfully, the affair is a lot more private now, so remember, “Only fools rush in.” The song was about romance, but it works the same way with sex too. If it’s too painful, use some lubrication, and when we say some, we mean plenty. Do not force anything, seriously, this is often underlooked advice. Just go slow.
6. Set Real Expectations
Okay, here’s the deal. If you’re the guy you’re probably not going to last very long, and if you’re the lady, we’ll, it’s highly unlikely that you will orgasm, even if your loving husband has quite the stamina. Here’s more important facts: Love and sex aren’t about those two things. It’s about having a boatload of fun.
7. Don’t Overthink
Just go with the flow. There is no set pattern, no hierarchy or order of positions. Take a break, drink another glass of champagne, cuddle a bit together, be relaxed, be in the mood and have fun.
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8. Don’t Attempt Anything You Saw In Porn
Seriously, just don’t. Why? Let’s just say 25 minutes of highly enlarged organs bumping into the walls of internal organs isn’t remotely sexy or even enjoyable. Porn is just sex that is made to look good on film, not for the actors involved.
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