15 Clear Signs An Older Woman Likes You

Reviewed by Sadhvi Nishtha Om, MSc Sadhvi Nishtha Om Sadhvi Nishtha OmMSc Specialty: Clinical Psychology, Psychotherapy and Motivational CounsellingExperience: 10 years
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Age is but a number! In our society it is pretty much okay for an older guy to date and even marry a woman much younger to him in age. It is in fact so prevalent that no one bats an eyelid at this. But talk about a mature woman dating a guy and people become judgemental and critical. It is not considered ‘normal’. However, feelings and emotions have no age. The heart is forever ageless!

Dating an older woman is not a bad or weird decision. In fact, it can turn out to be the best decision of your life. Joe Duncan, a blogger who has been in a relationship with an older woman, says, ”I never thought I’d meet such a great partner as the woman I spend my life with these days. I don’t mean to brag, but she’s got it all—smarts, responsibility, looks, conversational skills out that wazoo, strength, independence, ambition, direction, and much more (i).”

The ways in which an older woman makes her feelings known to someone can be intriguing. Some signs are so subtle that they can be discerned by only the most alert eye. So, in this post, we apprise you on how to tell if an older woman is attracted to you. Read on to learn the subtle signs an older woman gives out when she is truly into someone.

15 Signs An Older Woman Wants You

When a woman is attracted to someone, she subconsciously behaves in a certain way that indirectly gives away what she feels for that person. Here are some signs an older woman likes you.

1. She openly flirts with you

A woman flirts with someone she likes and is comfortable with. If this older woman you like tends to turn every conversation into flirty banter and maintains eye contact with you, it could mean she likes you. If she is a confident woman, she will even ask your opinion on her new dress or even lipstick to ensure you notice her. The way an older woman flirts with you, in an overtly bold or subtle manner, depends on her level of self confidence and personality.

2. She acts like a kid with you

Your woman of interest may be quite mature in her behavior with others, but with you, she is different. She may act like a little kid with you who is excited, laughing, and smiling all the time. Her tone of speech also changes as she speaks like a child that shows she is interested in you.

3. She shows interest in knowing about you

Usually, older women lead a busy life and do not pay attention to new people in their life. But, if she shows interest and starts asking questions about your likes and dislikes, personal preferences, family, friends, and relationship status and remembers the details you mentioned to her, it could be because she likes you. An older woman will watch you more keenly and find herself complimenting you on things, which an ordinary acquaintance may overlook. The compliments may be about your looks, personality or may be even subtly sexual.

4. She asks if age matters to you

She casually asks if age matters to you in a relationship when talking to you. She may even give you a reference to a couple where the woman is considerably older than the man and asks your opinion about them. She wants to know if you are open to dating someone older.

5. She goes out of her way to do things with you

She goes out of her way to do things with you
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There is a difference between kindness and liking. If an older woman offers to share her food once with you, it is her kindness but when she goes out of her way and cooks something that you like, or starts making plans to spend time with you, then it shows her interest in you. It’s important that you differentiate between her trying to impress you or being polite and nice to you.

protip_icon Point to consider
Dating an older woman can be a rewarding experience. Older women tend to be financially more stable and also have a richer life experience.

6. She directly or indirectly lets you know her single status

An older woman interested in you will either straight off tell you that she is single and is looking out for someone or she may hint at it without making it obvious. For instance, if she is inviting you to accompany her to the movies or check out a new restaurant. She may also mention casually that she hasn’t been in a relationship or on the dating scene for a while, and may even suggest hanging out together more often.

7. She talks about marriage and commitment too often

Marriage is a topic an older woman raises only with her close friends. If she talks about marriage and serious commitment with you, it could mean she trusts you and probably wants you to know what’s on her mind. She could indirectly tell you that she is looking for a serious relationship.

8. She ignores other men

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She has eyes only for you, and other men don’t matter when she is with you. Even men her age do not interest her as she is interested in you. In a group of people, she will look only for you and will have a broad smile on her face when she spots you.

9. She tells you about her personal life

Older women open up only to someone they trust. If this woman shares details of her personal life with you, it shows how much she trusts you.She may boldly ask you about your relationship status or make playful guesses. It could also indicate her interest in you and that she wants you to confide in her and strengthen your bond.

10. She shares her past with you

Not every woman is comfortable talking about their past. But if an older woman willingly talks to you about her past relationships, she could be giving you a glimpse into her life. She might be testing the waters to see if you are being supportive. She might want you to know more about her and understand how she is as a person. Her complete honesty is a clear indicator that she wants you both to have a closer and intimate relationship.

11. She texts you late in the night

An older woman texting you late at night means she is thinking of you at that odd hour. It could reflect her attraction toward you because she thinks of you at night and texts you, so you too think of her. She may even start calling you if you are being affectionate towards her.

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Some older women also come with emotional baggage that you may find challenging to deal with while dating them.

12. She doesn’t mind sharing dirty jokes with you

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Sharing dirty jokes is common between friends, but if an older woman shares them only with you, she is comfortable being herself with you. She may like you and does not mind you seeing her naughty side. She may make naughty and bold remarks that will make you gasp with laughter. A super confident older woman will take the liberty of making blatantly provocative comments to show that she considers you attractive.

13. Giving other non-verbal cues

An older woman who is interested in you may touch you often either playfully or subtly. She may ‘accidentally’ brush up or stumble against you, fix your tie or speck off your clothes. This is the most revealing sign of her interest in you. She will break the ‘touch-barrier’ with a casual or flirtatious touch to your shoulders, arms, or chest. You may even notice her being jealous if she sees someone do the same to you.

She may also give you non-verbal cues like running her fingers through her hair, tilting her head to expose her neck or touching her face and lips. She may lean her body towards you, give side-long glances when she feels you aren’t looking. These all are strong indicators of her attraction towards you. She may speak more softly which may cause either or both of you to lean closer to each other.

14. She dresses differently around you

At work, she follows the dress code but invites her for lunch and finds her in a sexy and ultra feminine outfit, showing off her admirable figure. In fact, she may even seem like a different person when alone with you. She could do this to gain your attention and look more appealing as she likes you.

15. She mentions other men’s interest in her

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When an older woman tells you about how men have been hitting on her, it could mean two things—first is that she might want you to know that she is considered desirable by other men, and second is that she might be psychologically priming you to ask her out by making you realize that she is popular with the opposite sex.

Frequently Asked Questions

1. What attracts an older woman to a younger man?

Older women are attracted to younger men for the following reasons:

  • She is not attracted to men of her age
  • She likes to take the lead in decision making
  • Dating someone younger makes her feel younger again
  • Men of the younger generation are more fun to be with
  • She has previous relationship experience and knows how to handle things

2. What is a Jaguar woman?

Jaguar woman is a term used to refer to women belonging to the age group of the 50s and dating someone significantly younger than her.

3. Can a significant age gap between partners create challenges in a relationship?

Partners with a significant age gap may be at different stages of life, with varying goals and priorities. These differences can develop issues in finding shared interests and future plans. They may have contrasting values, beliefs, and cultural references. There might also be a high possibility of differences in emotional maturity and life experiences. Moreover, an age gap might mean that partners have different levels of physical stamina, activity preferences, or lifestyle choices, which could create challenges in blending their lives.

4. How can I navigate potential cultural or generational differences in a relationship with an older woman?

Recognize that cultural and generational gaps are normal and bring unique perspectives and experiences to the relationship. So, approach these differences with respect, curiosity, and an open mind. Communicate with your partner openly and encourage them to share their thoughts, feelings, and concerns regarding cultural or generational disparities. Show empathy and find common grounds to foster an environment where you and your partner feel comfortable expressing your viewpoints without judgment.

5. How can I establish and maintain boundaries in a relationship with an older woman?

Start by understanding your own needs, desires, and limits. Take time to reflect on what you are comfortable with and your boundaries. Have open and honest conversations with your partner about your expectations, and listen to her perspective. Encourage independence and avoid controlling behaviors. Recognize that boundaries can differ from person to person and may evolve. So, be open to compromise to find a middle ground whenever necessary.

6. What is an older woman looking for in a relationship?

What an older woman may be looking for in a relationship can vary significantly from person to person. However, many older women value emotional intimacy, stability, and security in a relationship. They admire intellectual compatibility and engaging conversations. Mutual respect, equality, and shared values are other attributes an older woman would seek to build a lasting and fulfilling future with their partner.

It has become common for mature women to date younger men in recent years. However, mature women may express their feelings differently than younger women. Thus, understanding how to tell if an older woman likes you is important. If you share a deep connection with a woman older than you and notice them dropping these hints, you could take that first step. However, if you are unsure whether you want to enter a relationship, take some time, try to understand her better, and then make your decision.

Infographic: Other Ways Older Women Use To Display Their Adoration

Interested in an older woman, but not sure if she likes you back? This infographic brings you subtle signs that are ways she could be hinting at her liking towards you.

things older woman do when they likes you (infographic)

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Key Pointers

  • The ways an older woman shows her fondness could differ slightly from the younger lots.
  • She might be exhibiting certain obvious expressions and body language signs to express her admiration for you.
  • Sharing her secrets, flirting, and always being available for you are some indications that she is into you.

Are you hesitant if an older woman likes you? This video will allow you to explore 9 clear signs that she is interested in you!

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Monk Sadhvi Nishtha Om is a practicing psychologist and psychotherapist in India with ten years of experience. She has worked with children, adolescents and adults using tools such as Therapeutic Meditation, Inner Child Healing, Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT) and Emotional Empowerment Technique (EET) in a career spanning more than a decade.

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