10 Rules For Dealing With People Who Are Mad At You

It’s inexorable that you’ll encounter people with whom you disagree, be it at work or at home. Toxic people flout the entire idea of logic. While some people are unaware of the negative aura they create around them, there are others who seem to obtain a sense of contentment from creating mayhem and making others lose control. Either way, it leads to the creation of unnecessary complexities and stress.

Studies indicate that if we don’t tackle stress in a right manner, it can leave an ever-lasting negative impact on our body and mind (1). One of the common reasons why we end up undergoing stress is because we don’t know how to handle negativity; be it our own or others’. We often find ourselves in a quandary when reacting to someone else’s anger, which in turn fuels the fire of rage.

Here is an efficient collection of models of behaviour you could consider following while dealing with an angry menace.

1. Be Kind And Considerate During An Argument

You have to admit that most of the times we have no control over our emotions. Therefore, when a person gets angry, it can’t entirely be their fault — their emotional state is to be blamed.

Make an effort to be kind to the angry person next to you. Try to understand and solve their problem, or rather help them overcome the negativity they are facing. Alternatively, if they demand to be left alone, do so. Be the better person with a bigger heart.

2. Be A Control Freak Of Your Emotions

The most envious (or not) ability of humans is our reflex actions. If we are addressed in anger, we return our gestures in anger. We must try our best to not mirror the opposite person’s vibes. Stay calm and stay in control. If we stay peaceful, it can reflect in the other person’s behaviour too.

3. Work It Out

Emotional people cannot discover the cause of their vexation. They end up talking in surplus amounts, get confused, and have nervous breakdowns. So, if you want to help them, consider tackling their problem analytically. Ask specific, related questions and spell out their answers to them, this helps the other person to reflect on the emotion that’s controlling them. All in all, it makes it easier to reach a solution.

4. Comfort Them

Oftentimes, any person fuming with rage will not sympathize with you; doesn’t matter what you say or throw hints at. This is because they are overwhelmed by anger at the moment. The best way to handle them is to calm them down. Light-hearted talks might seal the deal. You should try to unwind their state of mind.

5. Solve The Common Problem

Always remember that if a person is angry with you, the anger is because of a problem that is common to both of you. So, solving it should be the primary concern for you.

A common problem equals common questioning. Shed light on every single point to understand the root cause of the madhouse that has been caused.

6. It’s Okay To Be Wrong

Just because you aren’t expressing your anger doesn’t mean you are right. The angry person could be angry because of a fault caused by you. If you are wrong at the end of the conversation, it’s all right. Apologize and correct your mistake, it will calm the other person. If you are open-minded about your mistakes, only then will you be able to solve your problems.

7. Don’t Don An Insensitive Cap

Don’t be as hard as nails. Being insensitive towards an angry person can invite more trouble. If you don’t pay heed to what the disturbed person has to say, you will only inflame the situation furthermore. Therefore, avoid any emotional turbulence.

8. Offer Help

When you utter the words “What can I do for you?”, it instantly calms down the disturbed person next to you. It’s a cue to the beginning of a new understanding or trust between two people. Offering help can solve the issue more quickly than debating it.

9. Don’t Be Pushy

Not everyone would want attention and care when upset or angry; some find solace in being left alone. If your friend or colleague likes personal space to cool off, do it! Try helping or talking about the problem only if your talker agrees to do so. Don’t push yourself on them. It might take their anger to a whole new level.

10. Refrain From Bossing Over

An emotion of anger can be very exhausting. Your interlocutor might be angry, but that doesn’t mean you can command over them. It’s always wise to talk and calm them down like a friend, rather than demanding them to become normal again. Being polite is the key.

A gentle reminder — no one is perfect. If you happen to dislike someone, it is possible that they have the same feelings towards you as well. We are all humans, we can all err. Therefore, always handle an emotional person (even if s/he is fuming) with care.

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