This Is The Difference Between Being In A Real Relationship And A Fake One
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When you’re newly in love, it’s very hard to know whether your relationship is going to last in the long run. Everything at this point seems super rosy and you end up thinking that you have indeed found your ‘The One,’ – your soulmate and the love of your life. The one you want to be with till eternity lasts.
Fast forward to six months or a year later and this pretty picture might end up looking much darker. You may start to realize that your relationship is not so great after all, and you may even question if you are at all in a real relationship.
Well, as it turns out, there’s a concrete way to know that. Even during the early stages of your relationship, there’ll be certain signs that’ll help you figure out if your relationship is a real or a fake one.
Here are 6 telltale signs of a fake relationship, which highlight the difference between a real and fake one:
1. You Never Indulge In Future Planning
One of the first identifiers of a fake relationship is that you and your partner never talk to each other about your future plans. You hesitate when touching upon the topic of what the future holds for the two of you together. In fact, the only future planning discussions concern where to eat tomorrow or which movie to watch on the weekend, with the conversations never really going beyond that.
While it’s good to live in the moment, in a real relationship, you will never shy away from talking about the future. And that includes marriage, children, and your individual dreams and aspirations. In fact, both of you will excitedly envision a future together and will work hard towards achieving it.
2. You Meet Each Other When It’s Convenient
Sure, it’s okay to reschedule date night when you’re sick or busy or have something important to do. But meeting your partner only when it suits your mood or schedule is a sure sign that your relationship is a fake one.
In a real relationship, you will prioritize each other and will actively make plans to squeeze in as much time with each other as possible. You will schedule dates if you have to just so you can get enough time with each other!
3. There’s No Sense Of Security
Do you get the feeling that your relationship is here today and gone tomorrow? Do you feel insecure about your partner and the love you share all the time? Then there are high chances that your relationship is not going to last.
A complete sense of security is one of the key pillars of a long-lasting relationship. It’s when you have enough faith in both your partner and yourself that your relationship actually turns into a partnership of a lifetime.
4. You Don’t Share What You Feel
When the security factor is lacking, you are bound to be hesitant to share your true feeling with your partner. And that constitutes as another major sign that you are in a fake relationship. Not being comfortable to do the things you want to do or say is far from healthy. It’s not something you will be able to sustain for long either. In fact, stopping yourself constantly may make you bitter in the long run, leading to passive-aggressive behavior in your relationship.
The converse is true in a real relationship. In such a type of partnership, you’ll never feel the need to suppress your emotions. Neither will you feel weak or vulnerable every time you express yourself. In fact, your partner would be the first person you share everything with, whether it’s good or bad. In a real relationship, you’ll never be afraid to show your worst side.
5. You Feel Exhausted All The Time
A fake relationship can get very exhausting. That is because you will always find yourself trying to rationalize your relationship and your decision to continue with it. You’ll be so engrossed in trying to figure out whether your partner feels the same way or not that you’ll max yourself out pretty quickly.
That won’t be the case in a real relationship though, as there’ll be nothing shady about it. You’ll be pretty confident all the time, never feeling the need to overanalyze the dynamics of your relationship. Which means it won’t be exhausting at all.
6. You Don’t Feel Important
Love is supposed to make you feel special, but if you feel neglected all the time by your partner, you can be positive that your relationship is not real. You’ll probably never know whether you are important for your partner or not.
On the flipside, in a real relationship, your partner will make you feel extra special, helping you to love yourself by bringing out your best side. Your partner will flaunt you with pride everywhere you go!
Relationships can be rocky at times. But if you feel undervalued, unappreciated, and depressed all the time, it’ll be best to let go and give your love life a second chance!
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