6 Signs Your Baby Will Make Your Marriage Stronger
Chaitra has a triple main bachelor’s degree in journalism, communicative English, and economics from St. Aloysius College, Mangalore, and a master’s degree in journalism and mass communication from St. Joseph's College, Bengaluru.
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Many couples fear that the bright colors of their marriage will fade out once they have a child. This fear is quite natural since it’s obvious that there won’t be enough time for each other once you have a baby. However, having a baby can, in fact, strengthen a marriage like never before. Of course, it’s not going to be the same, it’s not going to be easy but, if you make a conscious effort to maintain a balance, you’re going to be surprised at how beautiful and meaningful your marital life becomes upon the arrival of a baby.
What is life like once you have a baby? How will I take care of my partner when I’ve got to focus on the baby? Will the spark between us wear off with time? Like these, if the fear of the unknown is consuming your thoughts, you can always talk to an elder couple who have had kids. They’ll give you a little heads up on how to deal with this phase of life. If you’re still not convinced, these 6 signs will help you understand how a baby will make your marriage stronger.
1) Caring During Pregnancy
Once you get pregnant, your husband is going to take care of you more than ever. To him, you’re the best thing in his life. He is going to patiently deal with your mood swings and midnight cravings without letting a sigh out. And why not? You’re going through a hell lot of trouble during pregnancy and labor for the child who belongs to you both. The very fact that you’re enduring so much pain to bring the baby into this world naturally earns you a kind of respect in his heart that he surpasses the respect that he had for you earlier. The attachment, care, compassion, and love that you both share during the period of pregnancy is deep. There’s absolutely nothing to be afraid of when you know that your partner will not let you down. From your side, appreciate your partner for all the love and care that you’re getting. Realize that he works really hard to keep you happy and healthy. Tell him that you’re grateful.
2) Teamwork In Parenting
Working as a team will help you both work towards good parenting without burdening just one person. This is where most people go wrong because the lack of one person’s involvement in parenting can create cracks in the relationship. Parenting requires a great deal of teamwork and it creates a better understanding between you as a couple. If mommy has been taking care of the baby the whole day, daddy dearest can take charge once he’s back from work.
3) Becoming More Responsible
Being a parent makes you more responsible. You start thinking a little less about yourself and you tend to become more family-oriented. It’s not just the children who benefit from this change but the relationship between you as a couple becomes more matured. All those overnight office parties and long days at the salon are going to get scanty because now you are going to make space for family time. If you are both going to share the responsibility, you should be grateful to have a partner who is capable of helping you deal with the challenges that life is going to put you through.
4) Spending Judiciously
Once you have children, you become more responsible with your finances. You start saving up for your family and stop spending on things that you used to. It might be difficult for some parents to make the transition from their old lifestyle but for some, it’s a cake walk. More often than not, you don’t even realize that you’ve started handling your money carefully. You and your partner will start to feel that you can protect the family in every way. This is another thing that cements your trust in each other.
5) Appreciating Each Other
Having children and raising them successfully is probably one of the most difficult tasks you’d ever had to do as a couple. As you go further, you’ll realize how hard you both are working to give each other and your children a happy and content life. Appreciating each other’s efforts will make your bond with your partner stronger. Children bring new challenges to your life and with the added challenges you will only find more reasons to cherish each other.
6) Growing more patient
Your journey to patience starts with those endless nights when your crying baby refuses to sleep. You may have to cut down on a lot of your personal errands just to provide for your partner and children. Stubborn and naughty children are the best teachers when it comes to patience. As you grow into a complete parent, you learn the quality to your best. This indirectly reflects in your relationship with your partner as well. You will notice that you can tolerate mistakes better and deal with situations calmly, unlike your intolerance to silly mistakes earlier.
Having a child together means that you’re taking your relationship to a higher level. You’re probably going to leave behind all your concerns once your little munchkin’s home. Do you think children can make a marriage stronger? What do you think are the deal breakers when it comes to a husband-wife relationship after having children? Share your experience and suggestions in the comments section below.
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