How To Get Along With His Mom (A Few Simple Steps)
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If you think impressing that guy you have a crush on is hard, wait till you meet his mother. Then you’ll know what a real challenge is like! The stereotype of the bahu and the saas being at loggerheads is not one that exists without reason.
So, don’t be surprised if find her less than fond of you! That said, there’s always a way to turn the tables and win over the to-be mother-in-law! Here are surefire ways to make her like you!
1. Find Out Her Likes/Dislikes Before You Meet Her
Before going for that big ‘meeting the guy’s parents’ dinner, question your guy about his mother’s interests, her likes, and dislikes, etc. Whatever you find out can serve as a good conversation starter, which will help you stand in a good light already!
2. Dress According To Her Tastes
No, don’t make a face saying, “Why should I? I’m going to be me!” Yes, she should like and accept you for who you are, but there’s no harm in trying to impress the mother of a guy you really like with your style game, right? First impressions matter! So, make sure you dress appropriately and preferably to her tastes.
3. Be Interested In What She Says
It’s okay if you can’t show genuine interest, but at least fake it to the best of your abilities! Zoning out is really not going to win you any favors, so it’s best you really listen to whatever she says. This’ll really help her appreciate her son’s choice!
4. Do NOT Blow Your Own Horn
You really want her to like you. We get it. But appreciating yourself is not going to help with that! Your boyfriend has already done that for you. Which is why she wants to meet you! So instead of showing off and coming across as haughty, let her do most of the talking.
5. Show Her Respect
Granted, this was a no-brainer, but it had to be mentioned! You see, ordinary politeness is not going to cut it here. You’ll have to be extra! And that doesn’t mean touching her feet and showing you are Alok-Nath-certified sanskari. All you need to do is simply respect what she says and the beliefs she upholds, while still holding on to your own beliefs.
6. Don’t Be Timid
A little shyness is usually accompanied with nervousness, but being tongue-tied isn’t ideal either! She’s here meeting you because she wants to know you, not because she wants a yes-woman who just nods along to whatever’s being discussed. Be open and share your viewpoints in a tactful manner instead of being timid!
7. Praise Her Son
Warning: Not sexually! Praise him about anything but what he does between the sheets! Also, steer clear of any praise that’s directed towards how good a boyfriend he is and divert your focus on to how good a son he is. Nothing impresses a mother more than compliments on her upbringing and her son’s achievements!
8. Keep In Touch With Her
Whether it’s before or after a meeting, check up on her every now and then to show that you too care about her general well-being. Just a text or a phone call once in a while will do! Also, do not forget to personally wish her on special occasions.
9. NEVER Compete With Her
Do not even try! If you think your cooking is better than hers, do not let her know that that’s what you think. Mothers can be possessive about their sons. So, if she ever tells her son to do something you disapprove of, do not make it evident in front of her. The same holds true for all other members of his family. No competing!
10. Avoid Sensitive Issues
Everyone has a past as well as strong beliefs. Mentioning either of them in a negative way can spark a dangerous fire, so steer clear of any issue that is inappropriate, even if you know all the juicy details of it because your boyfriend told you so. This one too applies to the entire family!
11. Make Plans For The Next Time Yourself
One meeting is not enough if you want to make a lasting impression on her. So, before you leave, ask her nicely if she would like to meet up for lunch or coffee sometime. Don’t take it to heart if she doesn’t show enthusiasm. She’d still appreciate the fact that you like her son enough to get her to like you too!
12. Show Your Guy Some Care In Moderation When Around Her
Don’t overdo it, but don’t hold yourself back entirely either. She wants to know whether you are capable of taking care of her son or not, so a small display of care would be nice. But overdo it and she’d think you’re trying to replace her, so be careful.
At the end of the day, what matters most to your boyfriend’s mom is that you genuinely care about her son and truly respect her. So, try these tips out and make both your boyfriend and his mother happy!
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