9 Important Virginities You’ve Lost If You’re In A Long-Term Relationship
saumya gaur 
Long-term relationships are the coveted holy grail for most people. Every Durjoy Dutta novel, every Nora Ephron movie, and every third sitcom on TV is nothing but a dramatization of this wish-fulfillment. But long-term relationships are a lot of work and no one seems to realize that. The only thing here is that since we are in it with a loved one, it doesn’t seem like much effort. But one thing is for sure, life does seem pretty easy when you’ve someone with you.
If you’ve clicked on this article, chances are that you are in a long-term relationship yourself and are curious to know where these different kinds of virginities (aside from the obvious one) are. First things first, virginity is a social construct. But this article is aimed at painting a vivid picture of those milestones that almost everyone reaches when they have been in a long relationship. These milestones range from the trivial every-day to the huge as in once-in-a-lifetime huge milestones. Ready to see what they are? Here you go:
1. When Morning Breath Ceases To Be An Issue
This happens a couple of months of you guys living together. You cook meals together now and live in shared spaces. Everything is hunky-dory. Despite living together, you still get out of bed early every morning to wash your mouth because you don’t want your morning kiss to be reminiscent of yesterday’s dinner. Until one day you are just plain lazy to do so, and they still kiss you nevertheless – bad breath and all that, doesn’t matter anymore.
2. When You Loan/Borrow Money From Them
Again, this development too happens after you’ve been living together for some time. You might have been very particular about your monetary assets and the need to maintain them separately, but then, you find yourself running short of a few bucks and guess who bails you out? Your boo! After all, what’s tera-mera in love?
3. When You Let One Rip In Front Of Them
Let’s get something straight, flatulence is a biological phenomenon and no laughing matter. Still, no one relishes the thought of letting one out in front of friends or family, let alone their SO. Until you do so, accidentally. Much to your SO’s amusement, and your personal embarrassment. Soon, you find yourself comparing your respective flatulating capacities in great detail!
4. When You Share Politically Incorrect Thoughts
You know which thoughts I am talking about. Due to censorship issues, I can’t mention them here, but you get it, don’t you? Now that you’ve been living together, and they are a part of your inner circle, you begin to share these thoughts with them. And the bonus is – there’s no judgment!
5. When You Crack Your First Inside Joke
This happens quite unexpectedly. You and your SO are out with your friends and you’re regaling them with the stories of your adventures as a couple. You have got this killer joke that you are just waiting to unload on your friends, and when you do, you realize no one is laughing except your SO. Congratulations on cracking your first inside joke.
6. When You First Perform Each Other’s Health Checks
This happens quite out of the blue. One fine day you notice a suspicious-looking mole on your body, and instead of going to the doctor, you ask your SO to have a peek at it. The more scared you are of this unknown affliction, the sooner you ask your SO to perform these health checks. It’s only after they offer a solid argument that you book the doctor’s appointment.
7. When The Loo Becomes A “Shared” Space
Loo time is private time,and no one should be disturbed when they’re in there trying to unload. You also used to believe in this ideology once upon a time, until one day you had an emergency when your boo happened to be taking a shower. And since then, it has become a sort of tradition.
8. The First Time You’re Casual About Personal Hygiene
How far were you into your relationship when this happened to you depends on your unique equation. But we are sure this has happened to every couple in a long-term relationship. It’s not that this happens because you’re demotivated, it’s just that you learned to let your guard down in front of your boo. So it doesn’t feel like a big deal if you skipped a shower once in a while, even if you live with them.
9. The First Time You Admit Your Crushes
This is an important one. Just because you’re in a deeply loving, committed relationship, it doesn’t mean that you no longer appreciate beauty in this world or that you don’t find other people attractive. However, the true hallmark of your security in that relation is when you feel comfortable enough to share this with your SO.
We hope you were lucky enough to witness these in your relationships. In case, you haven’t, then don’t worry, you will witness them soon enough. How many of these milestones have you already achieved in your long-term relationship? Share your experiences with us in the comments.
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