I Am Slowly Understanding That It’s Okay To Be Single

We live in a society that has an antediluvian perception that you’ll be happy only if you’re married. So, if your relationship status reads “committed,” you automatically fall into the blissful-as-can-be category. But, hey! Look at Joey Tribbiani (from the popular series Friends), isn’t he happy and single in life? (Yes, in that order.)

And given the number of single people living a fulfilling life, and the copious stories of how your friends’ or foes’ relationships went wrong, we’d like to disagree with this noble perception harbored by society.

Being in a relationship shouldn’t be the goal of your life. It isn’t a hard and fast rule to have someone around you. Do away with the colloquial saying that you need a significant other to complete you. Please, you’re complete already. And if you’re someone who has had multiple heartbreaks, you’d agree to this right away. This read is dedicated to all those beautiful single souls out there who are striving to prove that their happiness is independent of their relationship status. Here’s to finding love, happiness, and living a realistic and a less idealistic life.

And we’re not encouraging you to stay single all your life! We’re just saying that it’s okay to wait for the right one rather than ending up with the wrong ones who will break your heart. So, if you’re someone who believes in waiting for your Mr. or Mrs. Right, then just give yourself a pat on the back and feel proud. We’re here to tell you why ‘singledom’ is completely okay.

1. The Most Important Relationship Is The One With Yourself

If you aren’t in a healthy relationship with yourself, how can a relationship with another person work out? A healthy relationship starts with how you define yourself. Listen to Justin Bieber: love yourself first! Know your cheap thrills and understand your interests in life. Explore every possibility that will help you love yourself. Believing in an afterlife is entirely your call to make, but we all know it’s just one life that we’re living right now. So, learn to make the best of it, all by yourself first. Being single isn’t synonymous with being alone, right? Ergo, stop whiling away your time with a bucket of ice cream, wishing for someone else to be around to start crossing adventures off your bucket list.

Make the best use of your time while you are single. Become that person you’ve always dreamt of becoming. Fall in love with yourself. And when the time is right, you’ll become the reason for someone else to fall in love with you.

2. Being A Solo Adventurer Is A Privilege

Exploration is by far the only true nature of us, humans. Traveling alone gives us experiences to cherish for an entire lifetime. You don’t need a partner to travel. The travel becomes much more hassle-free when you are single. Traveling the world on a single ticket is an experience to die for! Take our word for it. It benefits our body and mind (1). Not everyone gets to be a solo traveler; many are weighed down by bonds that stop them from exploring.

So, if you’re single, you, my friend are lucky! And while you are traveling, you will end up meeting souls from places around the world. Sharing experiences and heart-to-heart conversations with strangers will help you realize where you stand. You will learn to analyze yourself and others. And if you’re someone who just had a breakup, we understand that it’s not easy to change into the “I am single” mode. We admit that it is scary. All we can say is – travel.

You’ve got wings of singledom, so fly! Set off with your emotional baggage, only to get rid of it in the journey (2). And when you’re not bound by any relationship ties, you can do whatever you feel like, wherever you feel like. Let loose the child in you, and explore the world in a new way. In the course, you will develop and discover yourself better. And if luck’s in your favor, you may find your match while on this road to discovery.

3. Don’t Jump Onto The Bandwagon

If you’re hitting the late 20s or have just stepped into your 30s, there is this one common topic of discussion that is here to haunt you: “We’re getting old, we need to find a partner ASAP!” But does this have to do with our actual needs? Or is it because every time you open Facebook or Instagram your feed is flooded with pre-wedding or post-wedding photoshoot pictures of your peers?

A great relationship takes time to come, so don’t just date any Tom, Dick or Harry! Never settle for a relationship because of the myriad norms of society. Make sure you get the love you deserve. Break the norm. Give yourself time. Certified relationship expert and coach, Stephan Labossiere, says that there’s a whole lot of things you need to do before you jump onto the bandwagon (3).

Meanwhile, make the best use of being single. Live life on your terms, get comfortable in your own skin, focus on your career — do everything that you want to, and that’s going to keep you happy. Don’t give others the power to decide your life’s worth.

Remember that love can’t be found; it will find you when you venture out into the world and start pursuing your purpose in life. So, start chasing the life ahead. And, it’s okay to be single!

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