6 Tips Your Mom Never Told You About Marriage
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When it comes to marriage, the women, especially, have dreams about it. They picture their Sapno ka Rajkumar to present himself to them and sweep them off their feet and take them away to a land where they live happily ever after.
But, these days, everybody gets claustrophobic upon hearing the very term marriage. It’s a big decision in life, right? And if we ever feel doubtful or confused about it, we turn to the most important woman in our lives, our mother, for some advice. Don’t we?
We’re sure that you mother has always advised the single-you to find a man who’d treat you the way you deserve to be treated and to never settle for anything less than that. And this help must’ve come handy to find a husband that would fit your bill perfectly.
But when it comes to actually living the married life on a day-to-day basis, our moms seldom tell us about how to brave it all (the ups and downs). Whether you’re married or planning to get married, you ought to know the truth of the holy matrimony beyond the designer lehengas and the whimsical photoshoots. Here’s what your mom never told you about marriage:
1. That Marriage And Compromise Go Hand In Hand
The millennials these days live by the rules of no compromise whatsoever; be you, and be bold they say! But, in the case of marriages, a little compromise from both the partners is needed to make the relationship a blissful one. Two humans can never be alike for everything to go on smoothly. Differences are bound to crop up, and both have to acknowledge the difference and find a mutual middle ground. Did our mommy tell us this? Hell no!
2. That Marriage Also Means A New House And New Responsibilities
Every country has a different culture and in India, when a girl gets married, she leaves her home and relocates to her husband’s abode She starts a new phase of her life, in a new place and becomes a part of a new family. And at times, adjusting with the in-laws and their extended family becomes tiresome. The girl will find herself burdened with new responsibilities. She will find herself in a cradle of problems that’ll only rock her to and fro but will never let her stay still. In times like these, dear women, don’t panic! You will take time to understand how the new house works, so take your time around it and find a fix to all the problems.
3. That Compatibility Forms The Foundation Of A Marriage
If there’s no compatibility between your husband and you, then your marriage is just as dead as a dodo, trust us! It’s compatibility and trust together that supply oxygen to marriage and make it a healthy one. You certainly cannot live with another human unless you share a good rapport with them, right? So, if at all you’re still looking for your man, then don’t look for whether or not he is handsome and earns enough to suit your needs, all of these are secondary, folks. Look for how compatible you are with him. This tick box matters the most.
4. That Arguments And Fights Are An Integral Part Of Marriage
Even the most eminent personalities have spoken about the tiffs they’ve had with their better halves. No matter how high your level of patience is, in the case of marriages, it’ll all loosen up (ha-ha). Fights will happen (we kid you not) and the good part is they’re going to bring the two of your closer like never before. Never drag an argument for too long and make it into an unhealthy event. Oh, and never include a third person in them.
5. That You’ll Have To Multitask For Life
Before marriage, you never had to fret over deciding what the next day’s food menu would be, you seldom had to worry whether the clothes have to be washed, you didn’t have to worry about the grocery shopping either. Earlier, these were managed by your mother or your father, or perhaps the house-help. But now it’s your new house, and there’s no one other than your hubby to help you with this. And no matter how much of equal work you’ve divided amongst the two of you, you’ll still find yourself multitasking every day. Managing a household isn’t easy, you see.
6. That You’ll Have To Master The Trick Of Draping The Saree
This one is for all the beautiful Indian brides out there. For a newly-wed couple, the entire first year is all about attending social gatherings, attending the first festival as a couple and what not. All of these events would require you to be dressed up in a saree. And if you’re more of a western-wear person, it’s going to be a nightmare. But thank God for mom’s cheat tricks and those YouTube videos, you’ll become a pro soon enough.
So, has your mom ever mentioned about these in detail? Never, right? Maybe, they too learned these on their own and wanted us to learn it on our own too. Experience is a great teacher, after all. If you think we missed out on any major tip here, leave them in the comments section below.
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