Motherhood – The Changes I Experienced After Giving Birth To My Baby Girl
Being a mother is a roller coaster ride. The minute I found out that I was pregnant, I was ecstatic. I had always loved babies, and now I was finally going to have my own – how cool is that? But these moments of overwhelming joy were followed by bouts of anxiety, worry, fear, and panic. Because I had witnessed my friends, cousins, and siblings stepping into the role of parenting, it was not all pretty, and I was scared I would mess up. My mother often told me that a new mom never knows if what she’s doing is right, but she only wishes the best for her baby and does right by her. I was nervous about the kind of mom I would be and did everything possible to prepare for my baby’s arrival. Little did I know that my whole life would change, and it might not be what I had ever anticipated.
A few days ago, I was going through some old photos of my pregnancy journey and was overwhelmed. I felt a wave of emotions flow through me. Every decision, emotion, and fear I had about being a mother played out in front of me, and I couldn’t help but feel a sense of relief. I had come a long way from the first day my baby came into this world to now – 65 days later! I had faced several ups and downs, but I felt proud of making it this far.
I wanted to have a normal delivery, but things happened differently. On the day of my delivery, the doctors suggested I do a C-section, and as much as I had prepared for it mentally, it was still a scary experience. I took a lot of time to recover from my C-section delivery. My aches and pains were severe. I would often get shooting pains down my spine, and it was a terrible experience. That was not all – I couldn’t breastfeed because I didn’t have enough milk production.
I went through days of struggle with trying to feed my baby. It was hard. She would suckle for hours, and there was no result. I was still recovering from my delivery, so I was tired — a lot. But I kept trying and didn’t give up. Oh, trust me, I wanted to, but I didn’t, and I have my supportive partner, family, and friends to thank for that. They supported me and gave me the strength to carry on. They helped me in every way they could, and I’ll always be grateful. Finally, after six days, I started lactating. The milk started coming, but by then, my nipples were chafed. My breasts were sore, and I was in unbearable pain. But I was happy because my baby was finally getting breast milk.
Looking back and thinking about these challenges, I cannot help but wonder how much I’ve learned from them. They taught me about myself and showed me my inner strength. They opened my heart in ways I never thought were possible, and they showed me my resilience. I know that I’ve become stronger now and cannot help but look back at how far I’ve come.
A baby changes you and teaches you more than you can imagine. My baby girl did that, and I’m grateful for the experience – no matter how painful, scary or happy. If there’s one thing that being a mother has taught me, you can never know what life will throw your way, but the strength and courage you face these unpredictable situations with are what defines the kind of mother you become. And to all the new moms, I only have one thing to say – stay strong, moms; you got this!
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