4 Promises Men Make (But Rarely Keep)
shivani k 
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Relationships are rarely found to be easy and simple. There will be quite a number of rough patches in the ocean of love that you and your partner have to sail through, if you want to make it. Every time you enter a relationship you might be under the notion that he’s the one for you. You step into it optimistically, thinking he’s perfect. But, hey, nobody is perfect. Neither are you.
Okay, he might have made a few vows to you. Promises he said he’ll keep forever. But then they say promises are like babies. Easier to make and hard to deliver on. No, don’t laugh, it’s the truth. And we know if it’s a promise coming from the man of your life, it means all the more to you. You’re in two minds, whether or not to take it on its face value.
We’re not saying that he doesn’t intend to keep all the promises he made to you. If he failed to keep his promises to you, he could have genuine reasons behind it. He is human after all. We’re sure even God hasn’t kept up with all of his promises. So, what do you do? Should you still trust him? We’ll leave you to answer it. But, we’re saying don’t believe all of his promises and weave your hopes around them. The future is unpredictable. And as much as your man might love you, there are a few promises that he might have made to you in all earnestness but it’s that he won’t be able to keep them. What are these promises? Read on to find out more.
1. When He Says He Won’t Check Other Girls Out
Even if he promises you this, you shouldn’t believe him. Because it’s highly impossible you know? Imagine a Victoria Secret’s model walks past you, would you not turn and check her out yourself? You definitely would, right? So, how on earth can you expect your man to resist that? It’s completely natural, like a reflex. Some people are nice to look at and according to science, there is a biological logic behind the act of checking them out that, even if you do the said checking out for the tiniest fraction of a second (1). This is the activity of a subconscious mind. And yes, there’s a humungous difference between just looking at someone and ogling at someone. Figure out why this is causing distress to you. Is it because your man is not able to control his attraction towards others or is it because you feel uncomfortable about it. Resolving this query will eliminate the need of a promise like this which just doesn’t make any sense in the first place.
2. When He Says He Will Never Be Jealous
Jealousy is considered to be a valid emotion. And if you are expecting your love to stop feeling it, you’re expecting him to not acknowledge an actual, natural emotion. A healthy competition between the two of you is necessary. It will keep you both on your toes. See, jealousy is apparently an emotion which is present in human so that they can anticipate and prevent a loss. Jealousy is absolutely okay between the two of you until you’ve a handle on it.
3. When He Promises He Will Never Think Of His Ex
You know this, don’t you? That such promises are easier said than kept! You need to understand that taking the step to enter into another relationship is actually a step that you’re taking to get over your ex (2). Your ex might have sent you a polite message to ask if you’re doing okay. You will naturally feel inclined to reply to him, won’t you? It’s the same case with your boyfriend too. If he really matters to you, you should be helping him heal and not asking him for promises that will destabilize his emotional state of mind. But, yes you need to definitely draw boundaries. It doesn’t take more than a minute for flames of desire to surface between your man and your ex, and vice versa. So, make sure you’re kept in the loop if he is still in touch with his ex.
4. When He Promises He Will Change After A Huge Fight
After a especially bad argument – men will make promises – lots of promises (rolls eyes). They are going to say that they are going to turn a new leaf and they won’t behave in the way that actually led to the fight in the first place. The truth, however, is contrary, and you need to prepare yourself for these promises to fade away just like a flower that has lived its life. We’re not saying that this is the case with every man and that your man will never change. What we’re trying to say is that change is a process. Therefore, it’s going to take time and you need to be patient.
Final Thoughts
Of course, promises in a relationship should never be broken. It signals disrespect for the one you’ve made your promise to. And there are certain promises in relationships that must never be broken, like the one that has to do with fidelity. Promises that you’ll be there for each other no matter what and other such promises that are like unsaid expectations.
So, has your man ever broken a promise? Let us know in the comments below.
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