Shilpa Shetty Shares The 6 Things That Will Help You Achieve #RelationshipGoals
anjala farahath .
Read full bio of Anjala Farahath
Image: Instagram
What are your #RelationshipGoals, rather which couple do you think of when we say relationship goals? Certainly, with so many Bollywood weddings taking place in the past year, we can’t help but drool over the newly-married couples like DeepVeer, Virushka, Nickyanka, Sonam-Anand, etc. But, looking at the couples around us working on their relationships and taking them to the next level makes us want to delve deep into their book of relationship secrets. As millennials, we do everything differently and that extends to the realm of relationships as well. There seems to be neither an anchor nor a compass when it comes to the new-age relationships. From flings, almost-relationships, to it’s-complicated, the relationships these days seem to be plagued by never-ending problems.
If you’re on the same boat, fret not, we’ve got you covered. Shilpa Shetty Kundra, who has sailed through the rough tides to build a strong relationship with her husband, Raj Kundra, has some advice for you to achieve the coveted relationship goals. Now, that’s a goal that we should all strive to achieve, shouldn’t we? Here’s a list of 6 things that will help you achieve that, and that too from someone like Shilpa Shetty Kundra, who has successfully managed to keep her relationship alive by keeping it flush with chemistry, and a whole lot of love.
1. Patience Is A Virtue That You Need To Master
Shilpa says that millennials these days have no patience to wait and find out what their date has to offer them. They are constantly swiping left or right in search of “the one” but they lack patience to give the person a chance. If your date seems a little coy on the first date, don’t dismiss the date as a boring one. Give the person some time to show you who they are and take this time to understand the person. It will also allow you to present yourself as your true self. Abandoning the date and the idea of dating them, at the drop of a hat, isn’t really going to take you anywhere. Wait and find out if you guys click or not.
2. Don’t Rush Things
Whether you’re in a relationship or not, this is definitely a relationship mantra that you should swear by. Don’t rush your love interest to say yes, and don’t rush them to get married to you, or move in with you. Take it slow. Let time nurture the bond that you share. Get to know each other and be sure of what you’re doing. Impulsive decisions are often deal breakers in relationships. Shilpa says that it is a good rule of thumb to remember, to not make love on the first date itself. Find out if you’re emotionally compatible if you want this relationship to continue in the long term.
3. Playing Hard To Get Works
The 90s kids and Gen X often shoot this stage down as they think it’s pointless. But, guess what, Shilpa says that playing hard to get works. That’s the thing with old-school tactics, they are called classics for a reason. Call it playing hard to get or the thrill of the chase, in the end, the playful episode of the relationship where you ensure that the person was worth the wait, time, and effort actually reveals a lot about the person and their mannerisms. However, playing hard to get and stalking are two different things. Be sure, you don’t blur the lines between the two.
4. Don’t Be Swayed By Their Looks
We agree that the first thing that we notice about a person is their looks and then comes their personality. But, don’t go for a pretty face with the personality of a doorknob. Sure, you can fall in love with a person’s beauty, but as time passes, you’ll realize that what matters is their behavior, their intellect, wit and wisdom, their loyalty, and other emotional attributes. It’s not just the superficial beauty that you should look for, rather, look for a beautiful soul and a personality to go with it.
5. Be Vocal About Your Relationship Status And Needs
This one is really important. Be it a one-night stand or a serious relationship, be crystal clear about your intent beforehand. Don’t go into the relationship assuming that your partner’s idea of the relationship is the same as yours. Discuss your relationship and your expectations. Are you going to be exclusive or do you believe in polyamory? These are the things that need to be discussed before you take things forward.
6. Maintain A Balance
Equality is what we all want, don’t we? So, when it comes to relationships too, share the load in terms of pampering each other, splitting the bills, expressing love, or even taking charge in bed. Don’t expect the other person to do everything for you, keep taking turns. That’s what keeps the relationship alive!
We hope these bits of advice will help you strengthen your relationship if you’re already in one or help you build a stronger foundation if you’re on the verge of taking the big step towards entering into a relationship. That said, there’s no comprehensive rule book for relationships as all relationships differ. The only thing that matters is both the partners should be happy in it.
Community Experiences
Join the conversation and become a part of our vibrant community! Share your stories, experiences, and insights to connect with like-minded individuals.
