7 Signs Your Relationship Is Going Nowhere
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Relationships can be both the best thing in the world and the worst thing that could ever happen to you. Of course, that’s dependent on you and your partner and the dynamics you guys share. But even if your relationship is perfect, ups and downs are bound to happen. Sadly, sometimes these ups and downs can indicate that your relationship is going nowhere and it’s time to let go.
As heartbreaking as that may be, moving on can be the best decision you can take in order to be happy in the long run. Here are 7 signs that your relationship is closing to an end:
1. You’re Not A Part Of Their Life
Most people in love think that the ‘my-life-is-mine-and-their-life-is-theirs’ attitude is a healthy thing to inculcate, but it’s really not. While it is important to give each other space, if your partner never considers you and doesn’t make you part of their life’s plans, it’s time to have a serious conversation about the future. Especially if you’ve been together for a while and your partner still doesn’t consider it important enough to make you a part of important life decisions.
2. They Avoid Making Future Plans
Found yourself in a spot where you’re ready to take the relationship to the next level but your partner isn’t? That’s okay. No need to worry just yet as some people take more time to get serious. But if your partner actively avoids making long-term plans and even refuses to discuss them, it might be time to say goodbye. Marriage, kids, etc. are important issues and it is vital that you guys are on the same page if you want your relationship to last.
3. You Don’t Have The Same Goals
Love is not the only thing that brings two people together. The desire to achieve the same goals is a powerful binding force as well – one that keeps couples going strong for years. So, if you find out that your priorities are poles apart and there’s no match whatsoever, neither of you are going to be happy. For example, if you want to get married and your partner doesn’t believe in it, you have to look for someone who wants the same things as you do.
4. Your Relationship Lacks Effective Communication
Bottling up your feelings and releasing those pent-up emotions in one massive outburst is not cool. If that happens in your relationship, ask yourself why it is happening. Why do you fear having honest conversations with your partner? Will you be judged or ridiculed for what you say? Or are you and your concerns usually ignored? No matter which of these is true, if a comfortable and open communication channel has not been established between you two, it’s not going to last.
5. Your Partner Doesn’t Involve You In Their Family
It’s been a couple of years since you’ve been dating and yet your partner doesn’t bother taking the initiative of introducing you to their family. Or even to their friends for that matter! They don’t even talk about you to them, let alone arranging a meeting. Does that seem right to you? If it doesn’t, that’s because it’s not. Remember, you deserve to be flaunted. So be with someone who isn’t afraid to show you off.
6. You Forgive And Forget, Even When You Shouldn’t
Breaking of your trust is not something that you should take lightly. Granted you are a forgiving soul and would rather not hold any grudges, especially against the one you love, but giving in repeatedly is not a good idea either. Do you probably do it because you’re afraid to be alone? In any case, being with someone who does not respect you, your feelings or your words is only going to plunge you into a spiral of unhappiness. You would be better off being with someone who works hard to keep you in their life.
7. You’ve Done Everything You Could Yet Still Failed
You know your relationship has problems and you have tried everything you can to fix all of these issues. You’ve communicated, tried to understand their point of view, and even made changes but nothing seems to make a difference. There’s still no improvement in your relationship and it’s right where it was. This might be a bitter pill to swallow but it would be best if you moved on. Clearly, your partner has a lot of growing up to do so that they can learn to be more mature, giving, and understanding in their relationship. So, don’t feel guilty and instead, get with someone with whom you can share mutual respect and understanding.
Hard work is part and parcel of every relationship, but these 7 signs are beyond the realm of hard work. They are concrete problems that should set off alarms in your head so you can wake up, let go, and move on.
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