Smooth Or Wild: How To Know What Your Spouse Wants In Bed

You may have fantasized about an amazing sex life, the kind they show in movies, which is full of heat and passion. But soon after you are married you may not have any of those kinds. But don’t worry as that happens all the time. Sex life can be enjoyable by knowing what you want and what your spouse wants! We bring you the most common questions you may have in mind, right at this moment!

1. How to let go off inhibitions in bed?

The best way to do this is to ask! Remember, nothing gets better than being open about it. Ask your partner what he/she may like and let them know your choices too. If all fails, dim the lights, ease out on the stress to please, and go with the flow. Add some soothing music (by definition, and not by your choice), just to spice it up a bit. Be audible in bed. Experts say nothing turns on more than letting your partner know that you are enjoying the act. While you should not shout on top of your voice, low moans are a big turn on!

2. Why is sex under the influence of alcohol or drugs better than sober sex?

Drugs and alcohol lower inhibitions, and make you less shy. So if you are the kind who wants to go crazy in bed, let your partner know. You might be pleasantly surprised about how much they’d like your idea! It might take a little practice and it might be a bit awkward at first, but there is no reason why you can’t have the same kind of sex when sober.

3. We used to have sex a lot more often, but now we don’t. Is that normal?

Well, the answer lies both ways. You may not want to have sex as there may be a baby to take care of, or there may be stress factors. But if you aren’t in the mood, let your partner know why and stand your ground. Do remember, sex does bind the relationship, so don’t be selfish!

4. My spouse doesn’t understand what I like in the bedroom. What do I do?

Talk. That’s the only way you could let your spouse know what you want unless he/she is a telepath. Initially, you may have inhibitions. But once you and your spouse are comfortable with each other, talking is the best way to sort it out. If you can’t be upfront, then you will be stuck with the missionary for eternity!

5. We fight a lot about sex. Are we doomed?

A lot of couples fight about and on sex. There are plenty of reasons. So, don’t be bogged down. Again, talk it out and know your choices. But if push comes to shove, do see counselors! Many couples do that and it ain’t wrong.

6. Is boring sex normal?

While it may be true that sex is an important determiner of your relationship, do remember that a boring sex life is good once in a blue moon (which is close to never). Do not try to be regular as it really saps the excitement out of the relationship. Plus a good workout, filled with heat, never hurt anyone!

7. How to keep things exciting?

Have you ever tried to flirt with your husband, or given him a spank when the two of you were in the kitchen? Have you ever tried prolonging the foreplay? These deeds make sex exciting. Turn things on. Try morning sex, or making out in an unusual place. Be adventurous!

An important pointer in all this is that you are the only person who can keep it sexy and going. So muster some courage and do what you think is going to make you moan often!

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