6 Things A Bride MUST DO Before Getting Married
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Growing up, all that we were conditioned to imagine about adulthood was to get married and have kids by the age of 30. Of course, being able to do that is like reaching a milestone in one’s life. But as we near that phase, the dreadful phase of getting married, we realize more and more that we tend to curl back into a cocoon of regrets, of the things undone and unsaid, before we embark on the journey of a martial life. You know, we’re talking about the ultimate #bucketlist that needs to be ticked off before we say, “I do” in our lives. Often, the deafening brouhaha that lingers around about finding “The one” and getting hitched makes us forget to focus on the awesome things we wanted to do for ourselves.
This is why we think that every bride-to-be and every woman out there needs to have a premarital bucket list. And as Mark Twain rightly said, “Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.”
So, here’s a bucket list we’ve curated for all you ladies to do before you walk down the aisle with your man.
1. Make Sure You’ve Knit A Forever Friend Circle
It’s true when they say, “Friends are forever!” Your life can definitely not be all that happening in their absence, can it? Therefore, make sure you mingle and attend social gatherings. Find yourself friends who will stick around no matter what. Find a group of friends who can be your 3 AM buds, find some with whom you can go on those night outs and parties, find some with whom a simple coffee is like a celebration in itself. Having like-minded friends around you will not only keep your individual spirit alive but with them being around, you’ll have your share of learnings and realizations. So make friends and hold onto them, for they are going to be your forever strength.
2. Get ‘Em, The Degrees To Your Name
Academic aspirations are also a part of your life! Therefore, figure out which course tickles your brain the most, enroll for it, and achieve that degree. If you love studying, continue to do it even after your marriage. We’re sure your spouse and your in-laws will be proud of such achievements in life. Because education, dear ladies, is everything!
3. You Need To Get Into A Live-In Relationship With Yourself
When living with your parents or guardians, you’re always protected; you don’t get to experience how your mind, heart, and body would react to situations when you have to deal with them on your own. And marriage, on the contrary, is all about that — the way you will be able to handle the new bonds, the new challenges, the new circumstances that you’ll be facing for the first time. Therefore, move out of your house, even if it is just for a couple of days. Feel the unbounded freedom and the challenges that come with it. Understand yourself; love yourself better before you share your life with another human.
4. Travel: It Provides You With Experiences Of A Lifetime
Is there any long weekend coming up? Just pack your bags and head out on an impromptu trip. Go on solo travels or go with your besties, but just go! Travelling enriches your inner self with experiences. New places, its culture, its food, its music, its people — all of it is going to relieve you from the stress of life and teach you new things. Get yourself a travel diary or a journal and start writing your travel memories in it. Travelling does two things for you, you’re creating memories that you’ll hold dear to yourself forever, and you’re learning new things that will re-define you as a person.
5. Write Down What You Always Wanted To Do
You might have always wanted to go on a hot air balloon ride in Turkey or trek to the base camp of Mount Everest. Or simply just wanted to visit at least one country in every continent. All such wishes or dreams, write them down. And then start ticking them off one by one. You don’t have to always wait to go there with your partner. You can go alone, go with a stranger or with your family. Just make sure you’ve done what you always wanted to.
6. Splurge On Yourself
The few years before your marriage is the time you need to love yourself the most. Pamper yourself, do whatever keeps you happy. Go on a shopping spree. Get a photoshoot of yourself done. Spend time with your family if that’s what keeps you most happy. Ask them to pamper you too. Being able to learn and appreciate yourself will also help your spouse do the same with you. Become comfortable in your own skin first and then rule the world with your charm.
If the marriage talks have already begun at your home, then it’s high time you curate a premarital bucket list like the one above and start ticking things off from it. What else do you think should go on this bucket list? Let us know in the comments section below
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